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Baby Steps, Random
Sparks of Light
by Wendy Garrett
When I accept each moment as a gift, I enjoy unwrapping the present.
From the viewpoint of spirit, addiction is obsession. It is an inability to change
the channel. It is a loss of power. The beliefs that feed this fabrication are:
• "I am powerless over this behavior."
• "Life happens to me."
• "I am a victim."
The outcome of obsession is avoidance and the basis is fear. When one is consumed
with the object of the obsession, it provides focus, albeit misguided. The focus
is not on the present, rather, avoidance of the present. It is a refusal to show
up and take necessary steps to change, if for no other reason, than it will disrupt
the routine and create discomfort. It is fear of the unknown.
When you choose to remove the mantle of victim, you begin to take the necessary steps
to freedom. It starts with intent: I am going to change. The next tool is belief.
You will see what you believe. If you believe you are too weak to do this, then you
will see and interpret everyone and everything around you supporting that premise.
If you believe you can indeed kick the monkey off your back, then you will be confronted
by all sorts of people and situations that support that agenda, as well.
"Powerless" is avoidance and a delusion. It is fear of responsibility and
accountability. So who cares? Are the results of your obsessions producing an outpouring
of accolades? Most likely it is just wearing you out. Without the addiction/obsession,
you can begin to uncover who you really are and become more comfortable with yourself.
That is the ultimate benefit.
You will discover your power when you harness the tremendous amount of energy previously
directed away from you with the focus on obsessing. Channeled in a more supportive
manner, you are able to tap into an unlimited source of renewable energy. It comes
from within and feeds itself, thus you.
What do you want to create? It is the atmosphere of belief and the energy you attach
to it that will determine the outcome. Do you want to continue in your role as victim
or are you ready to take a chance and skin your knees to start learning new ways
of being that will establish a solid path to self acceptance.
When you incorporate belief, you must believe, no matter what anyone else tells you,
that you have the ability to kick your obsession -- and whether it be through your
own efforts or divine intervention, or both, it will happen. If you come at it from
the angle that you are working with thought, you understand that thought carries
resonance and that bears fruit. Others may mirror some of your self-doubt, but you
clear the path when you choose not to attach to their limited view of the situation.
They do not know you, only what they have seen in your past, which now is just a
shadow.
Be compassionate with yourself. Know this is work. You accepted the lesson and will
incorporate your learning in a way that will benefit you, and thus, those in your
sphere. You are creating a new foundation to support your new way of being. Thus
you will draw energy from those who mirror your agenda to become more than what you
seem and more than what you have been.
You are surrounding yourself with others who believe in your ability to heal. Focus
and determination are required to identify any deviation from your course so that
you can make the necessary corrections. You are powerful in your ability to secure
a new role for yourself and change this scene. You have free will and do not have
to agree to the role of victim. It may have been necessary to understand it to allow
compassion for others in similar situations, but it does not have to be a life long
state. You are ready to move forward on the path. Don't look back. Keep the focus
on the now and who you are as a creative independent entity.
Obsession clouds the mind with delusion. It is an inability to focus on self as it
eclipses clarity and creates a block. To create, one must have a clear thought. If
one obsesses, one shuts down the creative process. It keeps the thought stagnant
in that one form and does not allow progress.
Obsession is a loss of balance. It is emotionally draining, physically exhausting
and spiritually debilitating. One is unable to relax and go with the flow. But for
many, caught up in the process of avoidance, the entire concept of going with the
flow is unfathomable and extremely uncomfortable, because it requires trust that
all will be fine without any control or interference on the part of the participant.
Again, the basis is fear.
"I am afraid because I am not in control. I don't know where I am going. I don't
know what I am doing. I don't want to be wrong. What will everyone else think of
me? I am not perfect." So who is?
One way to get out of this trap is to lose judgment. Quit looking at how everyone
else does it and figure out how it works for you. You can take the best of what works
for others, but ultimately, you have to know what works for you. Would you prefer
the carbon copy or the original?
To obsess is to lose touch with self and direct focus on an external source. Whatever
the object, the addict/obsessor is not complete without it. That is a direct opposition
to all that spirit represents. When one has focus on Spirit, one has the ability
to see every need as met and each moment as complete with no external source or stimuli.
After all, each moment is a gift, and when one is not present in the moment, one
misses the gift. When one jettisons the obsession, one can become confused with the
overwhelming choices required in the day to day. A method for redirecting obsession
is structure. It is a process that allows a gradual funneling of energy into a more
balanced flow.
Obsession is monkey mind collapsed upon itself. When you finally send the monkey
on vacation...you'll get one, too. And face it, after a tedious bout with obsession,
you deserve it. Just give yourself permission to take baby steps to establish and
define your new lifestyle. In order not to fall back into the self-limiting and self-denying
patterns that established this scenario in the first place, your new activities should
be viewed as a lifestyle not an interim. You will gradually add and change pieces
of the structure to create more compatibility with your particular wants and desires
but, for the most part, it is a new you that will need support from new partners
and new attitudes and relationships.
You are building a foundation. It's up to you to choose the materials; brick, straw,
sticks, fabric, glass. What works for you? You are the master of your destiny. What
do you want to do? Now own it. Ask that it be for your highest good and enjoy your
creative freedom one step at a time. When you are finally free, you will realize
you were always free, just unable to see it through windows fogged with the breath
of constant obsessing.
Wendy Garrett is a writer and a
channel, among other things. When life offers a wakeup call, transformation is an
understatement. E-mail her at lite4one@aol.com.
Copyright © 2001 Wendy Garrett
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