Affirmation is the ticket for uncontrolled spending
Dear Louise | by Louise Hay


Dear Louise,
I struggle with uncontrolled spending. I feel as if I let all my money flow out -- although I have plenty flowing in. The shopping binges seem to be as addictive for me as alcoholic binges are for alcoholics. Often, I give away or throw away the things I buy. Other than compulsive, addictive shopping, I'm a health-conscious, happy person. I eat semi-vegetarian, organic foods, study Ernest Holmes's writings, A Course in Miracles, and other metaphysical literature, and also do yoga. I exercise by running and walking. Is there an affirmation that can help me? -- K.K., Los Angeles

Dear K.K.,
My feeling is that you're emulating a family spending pattern. Did either of your parents have a problem handling money? With all the good things you do for yourself, I still sense a feeling of not-deserving or a need to punish a parent through this behavior. Why do you have to make yourself feel bad? This is an old pattern to let go of now.

Work with the following affirmation for a month and see what happens. Just love yourself, no matter what you may or may not do. We all deserve to be at peace.

Affirm: "I deserve to feel good about myself at all times and in all ways."

Dear Louise,
Do you have any secrets for healing bunions? I've suffered from them for years and don't know what to do. -- T.L., Australia

Dear T.L.,
Physically, bunions are toxins that settle in the feet. A good nutritional cleansing program can help your feet feel more comfortable. Metaphysically, bunions represent a fear of the future. Remember, feet represent understanding and trust in Life. So with bunions, there's fear of moving forward, and insecurity about being where you are. Also, there's the feeling that too many demands are being made on you.

It's time to stand on your own two feet mentally. What is it you want to do? Where do you want to be? Learn to become more selfish and to think of yourself more. You've done more than enough for others. Your feet are telling you that it's YOUR time now. So love your feet! Massage them daily with love. Move forward in life, loving who you are, enjoying yourself, and thinking thoughts that make you feel good.

Affirm: "I love my life. I do what makes me happy, and I move forward in joy."

Dear Louise,
You've never mentioned anything about your views on the subject of a married woman having a sexual relationship (four years now) with a divorced man. What is your view on extramarital affairs? -- S.K., Asheville, NC

Dear S.K.,
Other people's extramarital affairs are none of my business. We're all under the law of our own consciousness, When we settle for less, we get less. The majority of the time in these cases, the relationship doesn't progress very far. Promises may be made but are seldom fulfilled. The questions to ask yourself are: "Is this what I really deserve? Is this what I really want, and why? Do I enjoy living a secret life?"

No one can tell you what to do or make a decision for you, because they're not you. They don't think in your mind. Only you can give yourself pain or happiness. I would affirm: "I am living a beautiful and fulfilling life. I am happy and at peace." Then see how the Universe fulfills these affirmations for you.

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Louise L. Hay is a metaphysical teacher and the best-selling author of numerous books, including You Can Heal Your Life, Empowering Women, and I Can Do It®. Since beginning her career as a Science of Mind minister in 1981, she has assisted millions of people in discovering and using the full potential of their own creative powers for personal growth and self-healing. Louise's works have been translated into 29 different languages in 35 countries throughout the world. Subscribe to the Louise Hay Newsletter by calling 1 (800) 654-5126, or fax (800) 650-5115. Ask for a free catalog of books, audios, videos, and other products by Louise Hay and other Hay House authors.
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April 2004


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